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The beauty of my coaching dilemma

Rajat Garg 

- Sep 14th 2020

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This blog is authored by Graham Marshall
Coaching as I have always understood and perceived it to be, is a practice which, in essence, is the interaction of someone better in a skill or had better knowledge of a subject, “coach” someone who needed to improve his or her level of skill, performance, or knowledge.
This to me, was always a “look up to scenario” where the coach was a mentor or teacher. The relationship was more than an interactive or transactional relationship. There was another realm to it that subsumed the confines of the role of a teacher. This factor resulted in a knock on effect, in that it brought into the interaction, the awe and admiration for a teacher. The effect being subliminally, that the coach was a superior being and the coachee was in all aspects. one not as superior as the coach, at least in the area that was in focus.
Looking back to the origins of this behaviour, the learning from within the schooling system was that a teacher would impart knowledge, mark and monitor academic progress. Why then is a school teacher not called a coach? Who then is a coach? Where does teaching stop and dovetail into coaching? Is teaching a more didactic approach to the same objective? Why are sports instructors called coaches? Is it confined only to the class room or does it play a major role in the parenting process? Is the parenting process teaching or coaching, or is it neither?
I was only able to ask myself these questions after “dipping my toes in the waters of coaching”. What seemed so straightforward and did not evince a hint of perplexity is now, almost an overwhelming dilemma after I learnt the fundamentals of coaching.
If asked, “so what then is coaching?” based on my learning over the last couple of weeks, my initial response would be very simple, and ridiculously straightforward. “” Just shut up and listen intently”. I am not supposed to offer any advice or share any knowledge which I would think would be useful for the coachee. How can that possibly be the case? Why should he/she waste time to talk to me and not hear my sincere opinion or advice? Ok, I may then ask a few questions again without a hint of giving my opinion, which being wired to do so for over half a century, was grueling to say the least.
It was frustrating indeed. I needed to understand the situation the coachee was facing and that was not just an ordinary situation. Associated with it, is a complex cocktail of   emotions, such as confusion, insecurity, anxiety, and a combination of many other emotional and mental states, which I will never know or feel unless I understand deeply, what this means to the coachee. How could I possibly do that if I relate his/her experience to myself? The mystery is just unfolding and I am excited?

About The Author

  • Graham Marshall
    I have headed businesses and been in marketing and sales roles right through my corporate life over the last 30 years. I have just launched consultancy of my own. Mentoring and teaching has always fascinated me and given me great pleasure. Coaching to me is then, another way of my being able to elevate the quality of life of another individual. To me, that’s the core of personal growth.

  • My passion in addition to my profession and family. is trying to do my best to preserve the beauty and wonder of his planet. My country Sri Lanka is a great place to pursue this passion

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Rajat Garg

Rajat is a Master Certified Coach (MCC) with over 18 years of industry experience and over 2500 hours of coaching experience, helping people and organizations attain maximum effectiveness. His background includes working with CXOs, senior managers, managers and board of directors of small private companies to multi-billion dollar publicly traded organizations.

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