
You are your own Sunshine
- Mar 09th 2023
A couple of years ago in one of the workshops, I was asked to draw how I want to see myself or how do I want my life to look. I drew a childlike painting of a girl just standing with open arms enjoying the sun and she is happy. For years I was struggling to find the answer to my happiness and this journey of coaching, the class and mostly the peer coaching help me discover that.
I have had a life full of tricky situations and I always made choices which were more beneficial to others and less or minimal to me. Though I did this out of my own free will I always felt dejected. This was a continuous cycle, and I was struggling to break out of it.
This journey unleased a few realizations which are now making me rediscover myself, They are
- Validation– I was in this vicious cycle because I needed external validation to feel good enough. Hence, I over did for people and fought their battles without thinking whether they need it.
- Holding on– I was holding on to a lot of things or people because I was scared to be by myself. Not realizing this holding on was doing more damage than my fear of letting go.
- Acceptance– I was not able to accept the reality as I was looking outward seeking validation. The answer to breaking this cycle was to accept me. It was that simple yet very complicated. It wasn’t them it was all me.
- Healing – I needed to heal from the wounds of the past and learn to release the memories that no longer serve me.
With a lot of effort, I have now started to walk on my journey of healing and self-acceptance by taking responsibility and control. The C’s that are helping me do this are:
Choice – I forgave myself for things that I did not and could not do by realizing I made those choices as the requirement of the situation.
Celebrate – I started to appreciate myself for all the qualities that made me who I am as a person and continuously celebrate them.
Conscious – I consciously made a choice to be present and focus on actions which will help me just be. Sometimes just “Being” is the key.
Control – I control myself and take a seat back from seeking validation by overdoing things for others. I keep ensuring on being balanced in being compassionate
Check – I keep a check on my emotions when I am not accepted by others and I am learning to be okay with it. I prioritize myself equally now and that is making me happy. The Key to maintain this is being humble and express gratitude each day.
This experience in all enlightened my path for “Mrigtrishna” and it reinforced with a simple realization that in life full of “May be” there is a definitive yes that we all have and that is a “Yes to yourself”
Author Name: Richa Mehta
Title of the Blog:You are your own Sunshine
About the Author: Richa is OD and talent management professional with expertise in leadership development. She is a writer, speaker and expert on people interventions.
Program Attended with CTT: ICF Level- 1 coaching
Reason for taking this program: To learn the art of coaching scientifically and adopt value driven approach.
What worked for you: The methodology of the program
What benefits you got: The skills for becoming a better coach and I am now “present in the present”
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