Sharing The Knowledge

Globally With Everyone.

Wheel of Life

Rajat Garg 

- Mar 06th 2018



‘Mistakes are a powerful gift; don’t leave the lessons within them concealed…’

We are constantly told we learn from our mistakes (very often when someone is trying to make you feel better about just having made a mistake!) But how comfortable do we really feel about putting ourselves ‘out there’, this is as much a comment on how we feel about ourselves as it is about how others perceive us. All the neuro-science tells us that synapses ping and pop into action (layman’s term) as our brains wrestle and grow with the challenges a potential mistake presents to the contents of our cranium: quite the opposite of the response to always being right creating a sea of tranquillity ( another layman’s metaphor!). At a recent training event, colleagues were asked to write a brief sentence on a blank piece of paper and to deliberately include a grammatical error; the look of horror and shock on the assembled faces was clear to see - “a mistake, you want me to make a mistake?!?” Task completed, they vented their frustration by throwing the piece of paper across the room; the final act unfolded as the anxiety levels reached a palpable level as someone else was told to pick up their paper and correct it, ‘will they find the mistake; was it too obvious?’. We appear to have been programmed to fear failure and this clearly fed the responses we received on the day, however, is it possible to create a climate in which we can we turn that perception of negativity relating to mistakes into a positive? Attempting to avoid the apparent negative event is an exercise in futility – “Shit happens”, one of the biggest mistakes you can make in life is to believe we are always right; making mistakes is when you learn most about yourself… honestly, I can vouch for that! I have childhood memories at school at a time when mistakes were certainly NOT celebrated; when judgements came thick and fast; as marked test papers were thrown back across a crowded classroom usually accompanied by ritual humiliation, a cutting one-liner leading to another sizeable dent to our fragile confidence. As I am writing this, I am experiencing a very emotional response and as a coach I am asking myself ‘what is making you feel this way after all these years’; how profound was the damage done? How negative was that experience of school? Day to day experiences have a habit of washing over us, we neither challenge or feel challenged. It is important to be able to self-regulate and be emotionally intuitive enough to be able to recognise when we have entered ‘the rut’ otherwise and often referred to as ‘The Comfort Zone’. We should ask ourselves how long should I stay here? Am I stagnating? What is the motivation to leave? But leave we must! Take that leap of faith and lay yourself bare to new challenges; ‘feel the fear and do it anyway’. We just need to look at the rewards:
  • an opportunity to strengthen our character
  • an opportunity to strengthen our self-worth
  • an opportunity to strengthen our minds and soak up new learning
Learning the art of coaching takes time. Remember that first coaching session in front of your peers? I now reflect on how I would feel if I had passed over that opportunity for fear of making a mistake and looking foolish. I have now left my comfort zone; I have created a new chapter for myself; I have left the childhood memories behind and am open to the new learning ahead – and I am fully prepared to make as many mistakes as it takes to reach my potential personally and professionally. I am reminded of the lyrics from the LCD Sound System: “Come laughing at everything we thought was important, whilst still making mistakes that you thought you had learned from” Just accepting that mistakes are a part of the cycle of life, sometimes we learn from them; sometimes we forget the lessons and repeat the same mistakes again – but learn next time - but that’s life! So let’s embrace it!

About The Author

  • ‘Martin is a former Executive Head teacher with 34 years’ experience in the education sector. He is currently working to complete the ICF ACC Coaching Certification Programme with Coach-To-Transformation. Martin is  excited by  this new chapter in his (personal and professional) life and views coaching as the cornerstone of this new journey’.

Rajat Garg

Rajat is a Master Certified Coach (MCC) with over 18 years of industry experience and over 2500 hours of coaching experience, helping people and organizations attain maximum effectiveness. His background includes working with CXOs, senior managers, managers and board of directors of small private companies to multi-billion dollar publicly traded organizations.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Recent Blogs

The Journey to the Centre of my Being

7-year-old me: What should I draw? 10-year-old elder brother: What would you like to draw? Me, hoping I will get some ideas: I don’t know. You tell me na? Bro (absolutely unperturbed): But how can I tell you what to draw when it is you who wants to draw? Me (sighing): Arggggg!! This is how … Continue reading "The Journey to the Centre of my Being"

How do Teens benefit from Coaching?

Are you the parent of a teenager? Do you find it increasingly difficult to talk to them? All the mood swings, the sulky looks, the “I’m fine” and “Whatever!” No matter how hard you try you just can’t seem to understand him or her? Parents want their teenagers to be confident and happy. To be … Continue reading "How do Teens benefit from Coaching?"

Uncomfortably Excited ??? Growth and Emotions

I have trained … I have learnt new skills … I have practiced these skills under different environments … I am ready.. Let me tell you my journey of learning to drive… I was 14 years old. My Dad was catching an afternoon nap and his car was parked in the garage. Over the years … Continue reading "Uncomfortably Excited ??? Growth and Emotions"

Am I really me?? – Self Leadership

Close to four decades in corporate life,  I have seen a lot of effort in ‘Behavioral Change’. This is very one dimensional and I knew I had to go deeper than Behavior to really start making lasting Behavioral Change. Below is a snapshot of my research and my reality. “Leadership is a choice, not a … Continue reading "Am I really me?? – Self Leadership"

Hence…..People Will Never Forget How You Made Them Feel"

A very famous quote by Maya Angelou “ People will forget what you said, People will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. While I decided to enroll CTT while I started my journey, I understood the deeper meaning on how our mind thinks, works and speaks. Various … Continue reading "Hence…..People Will Never Forget How You Made Them Feel""

Creativity is born for Curiosity

It was on a fine day on Jan 2020, It was very accidently that I came across a mail and somehow my curiosity took me to explore the website. I talked to the respective person and was not sure about if for 4 months and just thinking. While I was busy with my routine jobs … Continue reading "Creativity is born for Curiosity"