A couple of weeks ago, I chanced upon this very randomly selected TEDx video on ‘Food and Shame: Reclaiming Vanishing Diets’. The speaker was Aparna Pallavi – a noted environment journalist turned food advocate, whom I had never heard of at the time. She begins by sharing one of her experiences living with an indigenous family in India where a young boy felt ashamed to show her what he was eating – moth larvae, a traditional delicacy of the Madia indigenous people. On prodding the boy’s father on what led to that, she realized a deep-rooted sense of shame towards something traditional, naturally available and abundant in the immediate surroundings, delicious, and most importantly highly nutritious – shame that had set in because of being told over time that this food was uncivilized and somehow inferior. While the topic in itself was very immersive, what really caught my attention was the speaker bringing up the topic of foraging vs. cultivation. Our origin as forest dwellers and foragers is rooted in making the best of what is naturally available to us. And often, what used to be naturally available to us in our surroundings was also what we needed exactly to not just adapt to the environment but also survive over generations.
For some inexplicable reason, this brought me back to Coaching. Have we over-cultivated the process of Coaching? In an attempt to simplify Coaching and make it relevant to a broader population, have we ended up making it more complex? In today’s context, complex is niche, complex is sought after but keeping things simple has been the biggest challenge. Just like with indigenous foods, are we picking up what is naturally available to us (foraging)? The forest floor here is a metaphor for our immediate internal and external surroundings – something that we can easily tap into – the power to observe, genuine curiosity and concern for the coachee. Or, in order to be able to address the rational questions around ROI and business impact, have we created (read cultivated) too many models and frameworks for coaching? The combination of various acronyms, numbers and chevrons while force fitting the entire process of coaching in 5 steps…4 sequential phases…, 7 stages, etc. breaks down coaching as a set of tasks and activities that can be checked off one by one. Such models and frameworks definitely satiate the need for quick and easy implementation for many but the more we obsess over implementation and impact, the further we move away from the core of coaching – the care from our hearts, genuine curiosity from our brains, and courage from our gut. We must not forget that as long as we believe in the process of coaching and focus on being present with the coachee, everything else will follow organically.
The need to be accepted as civilized and sophisticated has resulted in many indigenous foods vanishing from our plates, let’s not let something similar happen to the core of coaching in this civilized, rational world.
Author Name: Sonali Mathur
About the Author (short description): Sonali has 10+ years of experience in Consulting and Change Management. She is currently an internal coach with ZS Associates in Gurgaon.
Program Attended with CTT: Coach Certification Program
Reason for taking this program: CTT’s belief and positioning of the program as a journey and the fact that there is nothing guaranteed at the end of it. The more you give to it, the more you get out of it.
What worked for you: Unstructured structure and the unhurried pace of discussions -there was no content being presented.. it was being co-created.
What benefits you got: I was challenged as an individual and as a coach and that I believe was the biggest benefit of it.
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