A Coach in Mother
- Jul 15th 2020
- Coaches listen more and talk minimal
- Coaches question without giving any answers
- Coaches help generate ideas
- Coaches tap into the client’s experience with no personal story
- Coaches expand the client’s thinking without offering solutions
- Coaches empower clients to choose without readymade recommendations
Considering all the factors and my dilemma of where, when and how do I begin, I shrugged myself with an inner command “START RIGHT NOW”!
I decided to follow the 80:20 (Listen: Talk) rule of a coach that helped in easing out stress.
? Hurray! It happened. I felt I was able to get through to my child with ease and elan. Yes! It was a miracle… a reality!
As a coach, I believe that the focus is on client’s needs; be it personal or professional. Here as a mother and coach, I had to be sensitive; when to detach and when not to. I was able to help my child make significant personal changes, improve relationships and make some important decisions.
Wonderful moments followed, through subsequent sessions in which my child’s self-awareness, influencing skills, interpersonal skills, listening skills, empathy and communication skill. It felt good to witness him flourish in all the areas of his life.
“To me parenting is all about trust. If you don’t live by your words or actions, how do you expect your kids to listen to you?” – Kevin Heath.
As a coach, I am extremely delighted and satisfied with this simple practice of 80:20 and as a mother I am more confident.
This reminds me of few lines which I read long ago…. Women are standing tall and are playing a major role in many important areas. Women’s role has changed at an accelerating rate in educating themselves…Women’s impact is simply due to the fact that they are now educating themselves. They are now concerned with the improvement of themselves, family and others. (Unknown Source)
It is interesting to note how women’s role has changed in society from generation to generation and now I think and believe that it is very important for women, especially mothers, to be a trained coach to handle family.
Note: Thanks to Rajat and Arvind for the spark during one of my mentoring sessions.
Rajat is a Master Certified Coach (MCC) with over 18 years of industry experience and over 2500 hours of coaching experience, helping people and organizations attain maximum effectiveness. His background includes working with CXOs, senior managers, managers and board of directors of small private companies to multi-billion dollar publicly traded organizations.