Summary of My AHA Moments – CTT Coaching Program – Part I
- Aug 21st 2018
This article summarises key AHA moments experienced by me during the CTT Coaching program (April 2018 online batch).
While all AHA moments are inter-related, I have categorised them into 2 parts: Internal Aspects and Process Aspects.
Part I covers Internal Aspect and Part II talks about Process Aspects.
Part I: Internal Aspects
These AHA made me realize my current wiring (the way I think) – they made me reflect on the appropriateness of my wiring in the current context – they pushed me to change my wiring to enhance the effectiveness of my coaching!
Here are those key AHA moments:
1. Do not look for progress of your session ‘out there’ – it is happening in Client’s mind:
I realised that I have a need to see progress ‘out there’ – I have a need seeing completion of a task/ project. When I reflected and analysed about the source of this need of mine, I go back to early days of my life. My upbringing – my surrounding at home and school – the time I had spent in different companies during my corporate career – various project I had lead in NGOs and on the top the recognition I got (for this ability) – gave rise to this need of mine – of looking for Progress and Completion ‘out there’!
During the course, I became aware that – Coach need not worry about the progress ‘out there’.
If you do your job well – the progress is happening in Clients mind!
2. Trust the Client – believe he is creative:
Being a father – being a high performer in corporate life – Being a leader in NGO projects had created a notion in me that ‘I need to lead – I need to tell – I need to suggest’ to make things happen. ‘I will tell and others will do’ was my default DNA. I also realised that majority of companies work on this motto. People around me also looked up to me to give direction to them so that they can complete a task. I brought this attribute to coaching too. I tended to give suggestions to client about what they could do about their problems.
ICF believes that client is creative and complete. As a coach, if I truly believe that, then it is the client who needs to think and come out with the answers for their problems!
I learnt to hold by my urge of telling the solution to the client.
@ Vivek Yatnalkar – 2018
3. Be in the now:
Being a classic ‘N’ (refer MBTI), during a coaching session, my mind was always busy in connecting dots and coming out with a new story! And while I was busy creating this story in my mind, I failed to catch what was happening then and there in the session. e.g. The client might be telling me something with his gestures, tone of voice, etc; the client might have used a metaphor which could become the central point of the coaching later.
I realized that I need to learn to somehow quieten my mind so that I could see and catch those gems (data points) which were there right in front of me to take my session to new heights!
@ Vivek Yatnalkar – 2018
Rajat is a Master Certified Coach (MCC) with over 18 years of industry experience and over 2500 hours of coaching experience, helping people and organizations attain maximum effectiveness. His background includes working with CXOs, senior managers, managers and board of directors of small private companies to multi-billion dollar publicly traded organizations.