Throughout my work life I was trained to assess things, situations, people, and to ace at problem solving.
We go from being a doer and implementer, to thinker, to show and tell, to role model, to lead and to inspire. A roadmap, a straw model, a business framework, call it what you want, we craft it with such meticulous detail always with a deadline that is too short.
The goal is to Know the problem and Know the solution.
That’s what I know, and I thought it was good. All that flies out ……..when you start coaching.
When I started coaching, two things stood out for me
Well at least not by me.
Experts have written the long and short of this. I just like the Song.
I learnt it is listening with your Heart that counts the most.
When your heart is open to listen, your ears and eyes are intently focussed on every word and every gesture. You hear all the sighs & murmurs, the longings, the hopes, the rumbling, the fear, the peace and calm, even joy. You get sight of the human in front, and a peek of the soul within.
My mind has a mind of its own. It takes a whole lot, to calm it and stop it from going to fifth gear action mode.
Mindfulness and stillness is an acquired skill. I confess I have yet to master this but I have learnt to engage my mind to be still and wait, to be curious, to be aware and to be present. I learnt how to experience the moment and not jump ten steps ahead. Its’ ok to just to follow and not lead. When I succeed it gave me freedom just to be. More importantly I am more effective as a coach.
So in essence I learnt that being in state of ‘I don’t know’ just simply means
What I know is
I am not here to prescribe a path. After all it’s not mine.
What I am here for is to listen with my heart and clear my mind so that I can be there for you in that moment.
Vivian is a Wife, a Mother, a Friend, a Boss and a Wanna-be Coach, who loves to wander often and can’t help wondering always