Mom, what do you do?

‘I believe I can fly’ – by R.Kelly is my favorite song much to the disdain of my kids. ‘Mom, get us a song from our generation, this is too old’! I have not budged an inch; the words inspire me in the moments where nothing much could. In this lockdown, they are the ones who hear me talking the most. In the beginning, one is conscious of what can be overheard. What is the impression I am giving? How will I be perceived by my girls? Will the answer of – mom, what do you do be answered? Will I like it?

A new job, right in the middle of a pandemic is something I never envisaged. Getting to know 52 people intimately and being responsible for their livelihood and how they experience life through these times is a humbling experience. It was in the early days of this journey that the decision to lay it all out formed, 1.5 years into my role I can truly say – I am doing just that! The zoom call is a deceptive comforter. It allows you to put on a mask where no one can catch you when in pain, angry, disturbed, or disconnected. My conversations always start with life and building a connection is important to me. Knowing how ‘my human’ feels and what each day brings forth for them is critical to me. Alana asks me ‘Why mom do you talk so much about thoughts instead of work?’ – she always hits hard! It got me explaining – our thoughts make up how we act, the choices we make, and those decisions affect how that person will be. The question for me always is, will I channel their highest potential or push them into that dark place most of us run to!

This is the outcome I see myself as a leader. I am not here to leave a legacy. My purpose is to make a difference. Be valuable to those I lead and give meaning to the ones who ask for direction. The pressure I have put on myself for the last 19 years has turned into an experiment. A chance to see what happens if you let a group of people decide their future, give them what they want, and talk them through their journey in seeing it to fruition. Then Alana pops into my head, ‘mom by doing this, what if you fail?’. The immediate thought is, what if I succeed? The urge to follow the norm, change the world and be at the center has shifted to ‘one soul at a time – pay it forward – push their envelope to find their best.’ With this, I must confess the burden increases, however the deep-rooted knowledge that one is walking towards the higher calling that is placed on me as a leader. The reward will be fulfilling!

So, when my girls ask me the question, ‘Ma what do you do?’ maybe I will prophesy what I would like to be – I am a shepherd who guides her sheep to reach their highest self!

About the Author

Khushnooma Mohan – A mom, a wife, a daughter (in-law), a sister, a leader, and the child of the most-high God! I wear many hats. My passion is to invite prayer and healing into people’s lives.

CTT: ICF Coach Certification Program Level-1 program – ACC

Reason for taking this program: Questions of ‘what is my purpose in life?’, ‘ Why am I here?” takes up a lot of space in my head. While prayer and healing are pillars that center and ground me, one is unable to impact outside the circle of influence. I chose this path to become a Life Coach! The Power of ‘Keys’ has fascinated me since I was a child – comes in all shapes and sizes, unlocks the unknown, possibilities are immense and makes you feel safe. To learn how to be that ‘Key’ seems a good answer to my question – ‘what is my purpose in life?’.

What worked for you: ‘Change your questions, change your life, by Marilee Adams is a book that changed my life. The journey I am on with coaching is an invitation to enter life, clarify their assumptions and, in the process, also find one’s self.

What benefits you got: Being aware of what is being said, listening with an intent to deeply understand without prejudice or judgment. But most of all, a spirit of service is being ingrained.

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