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Beat the mental hurdle – “This too shall pass!”

Rajat Garg 

- Feb 19th 2019

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The human mind is an extraordinary machine. It can make a ‘mountain out of a molehill’ – and can also make the ‘impossible become possible’.
Perspectives, perceptions, emotions and past experiences often trigger the mental hurdle.
It is also a known fact – that the mind can be fooled very easily to believe anything as fact. We tend to see situations the way we wish for it to be perceived – as good or bad, as opportunity or threat.
A famous MBA-time case study goes something like this… two marketing experts of a footwear company on their recce to a remote African village scoping the possibility of footwear sales. What they both saw – the villagers were completely barefoot. They didn’t’ wear any shoes.
The first expert saw it as no-scope to sell footwear there because “nobody wears footwear” in that village, while the other expert saw it as a huge scope of opportunity to sell footwear as an unexplored-need because “nobody wears footwear” in that village and villagers.
Same situation – different perspectives!
What happens when the mind perceives its mental-hurdle with a glimmer of hope and opportunity? It becomes capable of achieving something extraordinary which otherwise would seem impossible

So…. How does this work!

Kylie had been late sitting at work for the past few weeks. Her colleagues found her as the go-to person to handle tasks which could easily have been done by someone else. It appeared as if she was the only one handling all the crises at work while her peers and other colleagues seemed to be having a ball of a time. The pressure of work and expectations was sky-high. Her colleagues were not cooperative. She wasn’t being provided with the right support she needed to complete this.
Was she being targeted? Was she being set up for failure? She – and her brain – had a choice to make…. Fight or Flight!
And fight she did. She fought her mental cobwebs. She told herself that she should overcome her fear. That she can grow as a professional. That better times lay ahead. She was learning something new. She was evolving. Her current woes and frustration were only temporary. Similar situations in past had brought out the best results then.
She kept repeating to herself – “This too shall pass”.
And….. It did pass. A few months on – her projects got their due recognition. She got lauded for her efforts. She was promoted. She deservedly earned commendation and appreciation for her efforts and work.
‘Beating the mental hurdle’ is creating a positive belief system around you, around your thinking, around your mind’s perception and most of all around your mind’s capability. Every circumstance is temporary. Every situation will find a solution. Every experience is and will be a learning. Your situation today will mould your capabilities to newer heights.

The Three Mantras to Overcoming the Mental Hurdle

I believe the three mantras below, as stand-alone or in combinations, can help anyone in beating the mental hurdle in every situation.

  1. Draw a parallel  –  recalling and recreating a recent success or recognition you have achieved, how the journey back then seemed difficult when you started off and how you succeeded in the end. Appreciative Inquiry of the good!
  2. Break your journey down to Bite-sized snippets – take one step forward at a time – the destination might seem too distant. But you need to take the first step towards it. Celebrate every milestone along this journey. Sets the right mood for the remaining milestones.
  3. Talk to a ‘well-wisher’ buddy – talking to positive people in times of crisis, can build confidence in your approach. Seek help from friends, seniors, mentors or colleagues who can help you reflect and break down any negativity that might be around; ‘reassurance’ if you may call it that.

Success comes when we can overcome mental obstacles. Winners win the game in their mind. What follows is merely the outcome of this. It’s all in the mind!
So what mental hurdles are you going to beat today?

About The Author

  • Ajay is a Human Resource professional in Mumbai, India. What drives Ajay is his passion to make a positive change in the society, and help people discover and propel themselves towards realizing their own aspirations.

  • Ajay is married with a son and hi hobbies include watching movies and listening to music.

  • Image source: https://cdn.makeuseof.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/12/Its-all-in-the-mind.jpg

Rajat Garg

Rajat is a Master Certified Coach (MCC) with over 18 years of industry experience and over 2500 hours of coaching experience, helping people and organizations attain maximum effectiveness. His background includes working with CXOs, senior managers, managers and board of directors of small private companies to multi-billion dollar publicly traded organizations.

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